The one question you should NEVER ask, that is always asked when you get married is: “When are you going to have a baby?” As if you can go to your local grocery store and pick one up. When you are going through infertility treatments this question (and a few others) is especially painful.

Author Jennifer “Jay” Palumbo has written a funny and and on-point article in The Huffington Post on it and it is a must read for anyone who knows anyone who is struggling with their fertility – and even if you don’t! Because that’s the thing about infertility: it’s not a recognized disease so your friends may not be telling you what they are going through. They don’t wan’t to hear:

Between me and my fertility-challenged friends, we’ve been told that having long hair causes miscarriages (when your hair is too long, all of the nourishment goes to your hair and not a baby), if you buy a new mezuzah, you’ll get pregnant without any issues, you should stop jogging, douching is the key to conceiving or the ever popular, “just relax and you’ll get pregnant in no time!” line.

Really, saying “I’m sorry and I’m hear for you if you need to talk” is more than enough. Really.